I've never been one to be in a girl clique. A constant group text of together-ness, nail appointments and slumber parties. Some might find that surprising considering the vast number of girls who follow this blog. But, internet friends aside, when we're talking about real life, it's true.
Growing up I always had a constant best friend, 1 girlfriend who was my side kick and we'd be together every weekend if we could. I mostly hung out with the boys because they were simple, they didn't mind playing in the dirt and they got my jokes. In elementary school I had one best girl friend, junior high I had a few, and in high school I had one for about 10 years straight. Besides those select few, I was always the friend who was the "floater." I'd like to think I'm pretty easy to get along with and I am definitely not shy when it comes to meeting new people and fitting in with my surroundings; I admire myself for that. But, planning girls nights out and having weekend getaways in Palm Springs was never something that I've ever wanted to do. That was okay with me.
It wasn't until after high school when my sister got married that I started feeling like "Okay, maybe something is wrong with me." Nothing personal against my sister, her and I are just complete opposites but being constantly surrounded by it when I was little I figured that's how every girl should be. She has had the same group of girlfriends since elementary school and here I was, 17 years old trying to plan her bachelorette party with all of her friends realizing, "Who the heck would I have in my wedding? I don't even KNOW that many girls, let alone ones I'm that close with."
Some girls are wired to have a lot of girlfriends, but some are wired to only have a few select close ones. Some say it has to do with being an extrovert or an introvert but I don't really think that's true. Some girls really connect with other women; that girl bond is sacred to them and is vital in their life. They treasure it. It's a community. Others, like myself, are more wired for an intimate connection with maybe one or two girlfriends perhaps, but even more so in a relationship with a guy. That is just a more comfortable connection. (Just choose them wisely) What I've learned? Both ways are OKAY. There is nothing wrong with either party.
I get messages sometimes asking why I don't post photos on Instagram of me "out with the girlfriends" and I, like I have been my whole life, get immediately judged for it. Assuming that I don't have many friends in real life and maybe I just fake my personality for my internet persona. I gotta be honest, that sounds like a lot of work. Ain't nobody got time for that, haha. Also for the record, just because someone doesn't post a photo of them doing something, doesn't mean it never actually happened. Oh internet...
My point is, we shouldn't be judging other girls based on whether or not they have a group of girlfriends or not. We should be on each other's team, not acting like there are two different teams. There are no sides, there is no right or wrong. We are wired different for a reason, so we can learn from one another. Let's focus on that instead.
I wanted to write this post for all of the girls who are like me, to tell you that there's nothing wrong with you and you aren't defective. I've learned to love the way I am and you should too.
Girl clique or not, I consider all of you my friends and I wouldn't have it any other way. *group hug*