Romp Around.

It's been way too long since I covered some fashion on here and I decided to make a comeback with one of my favorite things: Rompers. Let's be honest guys, they are gods gift. Glorified pajamas (some of them). I can't get enough. 

Even though I struggle with long torso syndrome, I still find a way to make them work and find the right ones for my shape. It's a science. I studied. I also love the fact that they cut outfit deciding time in HALF. One thing, boom. Pick out shoes. You're done, uh'bye. 

I know I've written a post about rompers before, way back in 2014.. and my opinion still stands. There are ways to wear and enjoy rompers whilst having a longer torso. Easy. Just find rompers that are either 1) not elastic at the waist or 2) halter or have adjustable straps.

The elastic waist is tricky, especially for people like me who have child bearing hips. It's usually a no-no and I gravitate towards rompers that are one width, (like pictured above) that way you don't have anything riding up while you're walking, virtually turning your outfit into a thong by the time you've taken your 3rd step. Whenever I see one width rompers like these... I pounce. They are so comfortable. 

Outfit Details:

At Ease Ribbed Romper by Tobi

Cusco High Top Kicks by Inkkas 

Crossbody Bag by Irene's Story (here's one that's similar)

Another alternative is a halter/off the shoulder or adjustable straps, cutout backs, etc etc. If you find something that has a separate bottom piece all it's own, that's good, that way you're able to adjust the length of the back. Girls like me with a booty know what's up.

This particular romper was such an awesome exception and like I mentioned before, cut outs are your friend. They allow extra length and the back was open, thus giving me room to adjust. I hope you're writing this all down because if you have the same problems as I do, this will save a life. Unfortunately there's the one disadvantage that comes with sporting a romper... I love them, but every bathroom trip turns into an episode of Naked and Afraid. There's no way around it. Sorry guys.

I know I wrote about this subject two years ago but I feel the need to highlight on it again because I keep stumbling upon amazing rompers that are not only affordable but great quality. I found both of these at and the best part is if you sign up for their mailing list, you immediately get 50% off your entire first purchase. Uh. Yes please. (please note: this does not give me any sort of commission, I just like sharing good shit with you guys.)

And this, is, good, shit. 

Outfit details:

With You Off Shoulder Romper by Tobi

Black Ankle Boots by (here's some that are similar)

Black Messer Fedora by Brixton

For more cute shit, here are some other Tobi favorites: DressesCrop TopsRompersJumpsuitsBodysuitsMidi Dresses

Blogger Life: Social Media Marketing pt. 2

This is where the fun stuff is. 

Going along with what I mentioned in pt. 1, knowing your audience and who you want to reach out to is important when marketing yourself. For obvious reasons. 

Put yourself first though, don't try and fit and conform to what you think will get you more followers, stay true to yourself. Sure I like posting outfits, random good-makeup days but I also like to post photos when I'm out adventuring. Spice it up and make it personal every once in awhile. I have no shame connecting with my followers on that raw level. I'm human too. 

Different social media platforms have very different rules when it comes to marketing yourself. 

Instagram: Hashtags do nothing, unless you're hosting a giveaway or promoting a company who asks you to use certain tags, I rarely use them at all. This is just what I've found to be true over time. Also, posting too many photos a day can be excessive, you don't want to clutter up your follower's feed. Keep them wanting more and make each post something different. Post what you love and whatever you want, just don't go overboard and piss everyone off, haha. Also, stay active with your followers, comment every once in awhile and like photos you like. If I only post one photo in a day that doesn't mean I wasn't online multiple times. Make yourself known and spread love. Everyone loves to be loved. 

TumblrHashtags are your friend. I find myself making sure every photo/text I personally post is tagged with at least SOMETHING. I use hashtags when searching tumblr so naturally, others do too. There's no way you'd see me caught dead doing #girlswithtattoos on Instagram, but Tumblr it's a must. (Although THIS is how my photos get stolen and end up on Buzzfeed, but... what can you do, it's the internet) Also, contrary to Instagram rules, posting a lot is a good thing. You can either set up a queue which is what I used to do, but now I just find myself browsing and posting whenever I get a free moment during work or at night. That way, when you see me posting a lot at once, you'll know I'm currently on my computer or phone and it's an opportune time to shoot me a message if you want a prompt response. Also, same goes with making yourself known. Comment on peoples posts, be active and have conversations with followers. Spread love. #themoreyouknow

Twitter: Hashtags are also your friend, although I don't use them as much. I tend to tweet quotes I love and/or random shit that happens during my day. It's my go-to outlet for thoughts that pop into my head and I need to write them down before I forget them. I don't really have a filter when it comes to Twitter. I also find that linking Instagram photos to Twitter when you post them is a little annoying... if there's a photo you want me to see on Twitter, upload it, don't make me click a link. Maybe this is just me being me, I like to keep those two platforms separate. Sue me, haha. Sometimes I do this anyways when I'm promoting something, but mostly I try to avoid it.

YouTubeI just recently dove into the world of youtube and it's hard. I told myself in the beginning that I wouldn't make a youtube account. I'm not a makeup artist or hairstylist so naive me didn't really see the point. I kept getting messages asking me to start making videos until I finally gave in. It started off rough, I think my first video was literally filmed on my iPhone. But I slowly upgraded the more I got into it and I think it really has helped me grow.  People like to SEE you and what you sound like and how you speak. As creepy as that sounds, it's true. I'm glad I started it halfway through my blogger lifespan though, I will admit that. This isn't something you HAVE to do as a blogger, but it does help.

Facebook: I actually don't really like Facebook these days. I use it 99% to repost funny videos and repost links when I publish these blogs. As far as promoting myself goes, I don't really use Facebook as a main outlet. It's mostly personal and I very rarely accept friend requests from followers. I do know bloggers that have a fan page, which is totally fine, I just feel like it's not something I personally would want to keep up with. Personal preferences. 

When I first started this blog, I told myself "I'm gonna do 3 posts a week, monday wednesday friday." Well fuck, that was ambitious. I kept up with that cycle for about 2-3 weeks surprisingly until it became too much. Especially while having a life and a full time job, I learned quickly not to set that bar too high for myself and just go at my own pace. I will admit it was good in the beginning to have a good handful of posts published so that it wasn't totally barren for awhile. It was good to have a lot of material for people to read while I was still writing newer entries. So I can't say it was a total mistake. 

Right now I think I'm down to 2-3 posts a month, which works for me. Everyone is different. I'm sure if I didn't have such a busy life or maybe could afford to have a part time job I would blog a hell of a lot more often, but alas, California and their damn living expenses will be the death of me. I have to work. 

Don't feel pressured to post a lot or often. Do what works best for you and the steady subscribers will still follow you. If anyone expects you to shell out top notch blogs several times a week... they fucking crazy. Just relax, breathe and write. 

Make sure you have fun with the process of creating your "brand" and putting yourself out there. Know that not everybody will like you and that's okay. You're here to express yourself, not to be a people pleaser. Don't take anyone's shit and just focus on doing what makes you happy.

This all has been a huge learning experience for me and I don't regret the journey along the way. I'm still growing every single day and I like it that way. That rhymed. If this is something you want to get into, I encourage you to dive in. I'm all for girls helping girls. We're all in this together. 

All the best and good luck,


P.S. I don't say this enough but I love you guys and I really appreciate all the love and support I've received since day one. Our love is the real thing, baby. 

Blogger Life: Honesty pt. 1

I receive emails every once in awhile from girls that are wanting to dive into the blogging world and are needing some guidance or more so, "where do I start?" I asked myself that same thing less than a year ago when I started this site. No shame. Everybody starts somewhere. I reached out to bloggers when I first started who helped me tremendously get a leg up on what to do. Find a name, a platform and run. The physical aspect of creating a blog is the easy part, it's deciding what type of blogger you want to be is what's difficult.

The thing you gotta know about fashion bloggers is that there are 2 different kinds. (in my opinion) You'll know the difference when you see their Instagram profiles or their websites. There's the clean cut fashion straight-to-the-point people. "Here's my outfit, where I got it, how much it was." Clean crisp photographs, often very colorful and bright. Their Instagram pages are seamless and pore-less but they stray from posting every-day photos from their life and they like to keep personal things separate. Professional. (which is okay!) Then there's the bloggers, like myself, who mix the two, have clean cut photos sometimes, but more often then not our blogs are filled with things OUTSIDE of fashion.

You'll see an outfit that I blogged about but you'll also see that I got donuts with Spencer at 1:00am just because we can. (which is also okay!) 

Finding out which type of blogger you are will be a decision you'll need to make in the beginning as it greatly determines your type of audience as well.

Who to promote towards, etc etc. 

People often assume that I just don't ever need to buy clothes anymore or that I get paid for posts. While this is possible, this isn't my end goal. I didn't become a blogger to obtain free products and don't you go becoming one either.

I understand people assume and put two and two together when I post about a product I love and include a coupon code at the bottom which results in an epic eye roll of "Who knows if this product is even good, she just wants to get paid." I will never promote a product that I personally didn't love and use. I just ain't about that. Too mean.

I understand some reviews are contracted and needed within a certain time frame but if I didn't like the product, I'm gonna tell you and I'm gonna tell you why. Simple as that. Always be honest with your viewers, they dig that. I dig that. One big happy family.

Stay true to yourself when it comes to becoming a blogger. Don't lose yourself in the hype of "free shit" and making a name for yourself. Always stay grounded, that would be my main advice for anyone wanting to delve into the blogging world.

It makes me a sad panda when girls ask me for advice and I respond to them genuinely only to find the blog they created weeks later looks identical to mine. I'm not a toddler stomping my feet on the ground like "you copied me", I'm more upset because I now have NO idea WHO YOU ARE. This doesn't show me anything about you. You follow bloggers because you like who they are, what they stand for, how they think and how they positively influence your life. If I don't know who you truly are because you're just trying to be like someone else, I get lost. I want to connect to YOU.

The blogging world is all about making a connection. Relating to people and saying what others are also trying to say but they can't find the words. So, sure I will blog about my favorite summer dress, pair of boots, etc etc. But I will also blog about living with anxiety, my relationship, my past and what I've learned from it and any other weird shit I feel would be useful to anyone reading. Find what motivates you and what you're passionate about and start from there. If you're really into makeup, dive into the YouTube world and blog about your favorite makeup products.. If you're a fashionista, create a blog, put outfits together, reach out to companies and run with it.. 

*Marketing is also an important factor when it comes to spreading the word about your blog. I feel like this entire subject will need it's own post as I'm the biggest nerd about it and I love it so much. So for that, I'll say "Coming soon... How To Market Yourself As A Blogger: Pt. 2"

Bottom line: Don't get discouraged in the beginning, I think I went a solid month with 8 viewers when I started... this isn't something that grows into an empire overnight. Keep blogging no matter who is reading and don't give up. 

This isn't a competition and I will never withhold advice on how to create a successful blog. If you're sitting there thinking "I wish I could do something like this" - Do it. 

I like who you are and I guarantee others will too.

All the best,