Every Day Valentine.

It's been awhile since Spencer and I collaborated on a blog post for you guys; it's long overdue, I'm sorry. We're going to write this one together, as a unit, as a collaborative force. 

Now, I don't ever want to come off like we know it all or we're telling you what you should do. That's not how I do things and frankly, that's not how I feel one learns. We're going to share how WE do things and what we feel has helped shape our relationship along the way. We're all still learning here, as I always stress. Alright, let's dive into it.

Photo by: Anna DeMarco

Photo by: Anna DeMarco

Every so often we get asked how we keep our relationship interesting and constantly growing, that's not to say we don't have our set backs every once in awhile just like every other couple.. but we feel along the way we've figured out certain things on how to keep things alive, thriving and healthy. 

First things first, it takes a lot of effort from both parties in order to sustain a healthy/growing relationship after the "H-OMG THEY LIKE ME!" phase. That whole saying, "it doesn't take 50/50 from each party, it takes 100/100" is extremely important. Write that down. 

Secondly, we wake up and choose one another and make a conscious effort to make sure the other person feels loved, encouraged, and important. Effort not only stems from reassurance and let's say, gift buying... it also means making the effort to learn about the other person: How do they receive affection? Also how do they show affection? Everybody does these two things differently, most of the time. It is important to realize that. Communication and speaking up is also so important when it comes to establishing that base line. I mean, it's important regardless, but you know what we mean. Speak up. Asking these types of questions is so key in any relationship; fuck... asking ALL THE QUESTIONS is key. Don't ever stop learning, don't ever stop continuing to grow with each other.  

We also get asked how we keep things spicy and fresh as time goes by; one major thing we do is we make an effort to step out of our routine. We go eat somewhere new, go on a spontaneous road trip, plan a vacation, hangout with people we haven't seen in awhile, get all dressed up and go out on the town for no reason; JUST PLAN STUFF. We make a note to have a fancy date night once a month, no matter what. It's so important to do this and not get stuck in a rut and these things most definitely do not all require large amounts of money. We're not millionaires, we don't have the money to jet set around the world frequently, but that doesn't mean your life/relationship can't be adventurous. Write that down, too.   


While we have many similarities when it comes to interests like photography and such, please don't assume that includes ALL of our hobbies. Both of us are into different shit, but we both make sure we are there to support said hobbies/interests/passions regardless. Whether or not you understand it, being a supportive counter part goes farther than you think it does. 

Sustaining a relationship is hard work and it only succeeds if both parties are giving it their all, like we stated before I know I know haha. We've both been put through the ringer when it comes to past relationships but it has done nothing but shape and prepare us for handling anything and everything that is thrown our way. I mean, this goes for everyone as well, we know bad eggs exist and we believe they are there for a purpose. This purpose. Don't ever let assholes from your past hold you back from loving someone as hard as you fucking can. There are people in the world that don't suck. There are people in the world who are looking for the same kind of love and companionship as you are and don't give up on them. They won't give up on you.

Like we stated in the beginning, this post is not meant to come off like we have the answer to everything and we have a picture perfect relationship. That is far from the truth, nothing is ever perfect. It is perfectly imperfect. Every relationship is different but they are more similar than we think - we are all one big family and we can all learn from each other. To be just as good at listening rather than shelling out advice is important. Stay humble and stay eager to learn, that is how we all can achieve what we want when it comes to love and frankly, when it comes to just, life. 

We appreciate every ounce of love and support we receive from you guys and we want nothing more than to shove it right back at you. In your face. I mean, you know, in an affectionate way. I hope everyone, whether you're in a relationship or not, has a great weekend full of love. It doesn't need to be Valentine's day for you to spread love to people you care about. Happy February 12th. We love you today and we'll love you tomorrow and you see where this is going... 

Cheers,

Michelle & Spencer

All About That Affordable Valentine's Day

I'm not really all about the Valentine's Day "holiday". I've also never really had a 'successful' one, whatever that means.. except for 2010 when I bought my car... that was my gift to me from me. All of the other times were blah or nothing was done to make it special. I don't really expect much anymore; I wouldn't categorize myself as high maintenance or prissy where I expect fancy jewelry or really anything at all. expensive jewelry makes me nervous, too much pressure around my neck, buy me a hefty burrito or a steak instead. 

This is the first year where it feels different. in a good way. It's also very rare when a guy gives a flying fuck about Valentine's Day and making it something. Spencer wants to do something so, I'm leaving it up to him because he knows I'm cool with whatever.. just spending time together is good enough for me. sorry, that was cheesy. but what I do know is I'ma look damn cute for whatever it is. Any excuse to dress up is alright with me.

I'm completely notorious for online bargain shopping.. I will fill up my shopping carts to the brim and weed stuff out over time in order to get the most bang for my buck. So when it comes to holiday's or whatever, I try my best to keep the outfit spending to a minimum and leave more room for gifts/food/things that are more important. 

Being into fashion, it tends to be difficult doing this BUT I finagled my way around the internet this year to come up with a pretty adorable Valentine's Day outfit for under $60.00, if that doesn't make your heart race, pffffffft you're on the wrong blog honey.


Here's my final outfit purchase. I'll list some other cute affordable dresses underneath. Just for funzies. 

 

 

 

Red T-shirt dress, $12.90

Forever 21

 

 

 

 

Faux Leather Charm Choker, $7.90

Forever 21

 

 

 

 

Lace-Up Peep-Toe Booties, $32.90

Forever 21

 

Outfit total = $55.00 aka the biggest steal, ever.

i also may have a forever 21 problem. no shame.


For those of you needing some clothing ideas, I thought I'd give you a helpful hand. Here are some cute dresses under $50 that could literally be worn for any occasion and i would totally purchase. Dresses are allowed to be worn more than once, think big picture, people.

 

 

 

 

Heart Cut-out Dress, $40.00 >>

Pacsun

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

<< Sandy Dress, On Sale Right Now, $34.00

Nastygal

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Ladies Night Tank Dress, $48.00 >>

Threadsence


These are just 3 of my favorites. Some good dress stores that are reasonably priced are...


P.S. If you're looking for the best gift for you and your significant other, my favorite "Love You, Fuck Me" pillowcases (& all of the others) from Said The King are 14% off until Feb 15th. Hurry!

Use my code: LOVEGIRRLSCOUT

With your purchase you'll also receive a personalized valentine from Spence and I. :) 


I hope I helped a bit for those of you who were struggling to find something cute, simple and affordable for this love-filled, overly-hyped "holiday". 

On behalf of Spence and I, we're sending you all our love ... Thank you so much for following me and my completely unorganized crazy life. You're all saints. I appreciate every single one of you. *single tear rolls down cheek