"Oh Sweet, Anxiety." Said No One Ever.

I've only struggled with having anxiety issues since around 2009. While that seems like a long time for me, I'm sure others have had it way worse. But, none the less, I feel their pain, it's definitely not a fun thing to deal with. I've learned throughout the years small tips and tricks that have helped me cope and deal when I have panic attacks or am overthinking/going insane over the smallest things that I know aren't a big deal. I must share them:

a) Music.

Definitely my #1 choice, my go-to song when I'm driving and feeling overwhelmed. It's a good'n.

Here are some others I recommend:

  • "Dance Of The Gray Whales" by A Fine Frenzy
  • "Sacred Heart" by The Civil Wars
  • "Sleep Well" by Mae
  • "Sweet Afton" by Nickel Creek
  • "All This Time" by One Republic
  • "Kiss The Grass" by The Paper Kites
  • "Lua" by Bright Eyes
  • "Such Great Heights" by Iron And Wine
  • "Robbers" by The 1975

Another solution, that I think is sorely overlooked is anxiety/stress relieving oils. For instance, my choice,

b) doterra

For example: Lavender. 

  • Widely used for its calming and relaxing qualities
  • Soothes occasional skin irritations
  • Helps skin recover quickly
  • Eases muscle tension in the head and neck

I use Lavender when I'm too stressed out to fall asleep. You know that feeling when your mind is racing so much that you just can't catch a break? I put this oil on my wrists, nape of my neck and the insides of my ankles. Smells so good and helps me fall fast asleep. I've actually never used it on my face for skin irritations, so that you would have to try, I just use it for sleeping. It really does help. 

There are tons of other scents and oils for specific moods/stress/diet etc etc. Here's a link to all of their single oils.

The thing about an anxiety disorder is that you know it is stupid. You know with all your heart that it wasn’t a big deal and that it should roll off of you. But that is where the disorder kicks in; Suddenly the small thing is very big and it keeps growing in your head, flooding your chest, and trying to escape from under your skin. You know with all of your heart that you’re being ridiculous and you hate every minute of it. The fact that many people don’t recognize or have patience for your illness only makes everything worse.
— Unknown

c) A note to someone who's in a relationship with a person who has anxiety: 

Be calm. Always be calm, gentle and understanding. The things we are overthinking and freaking out about are 99.9% nothing and all in our head. We know this and we are completely aware. Help us focus on our breathing, if you can, and reassure us that you're there and everything's going to be okay. It may seem silly, in fact.. it WILL seem silly to you but please don't take it lightly. 

Usually when I panic it's because I overthink and create problems in my head that don't exist when I constantly think things are "wrong" when virtually nothing has happened. Spencer will tell you how much he hates it when I ask him if he's okay too much. It bothers ME that I do that as well, but it's just something I'll get better at over time. Know that it's your communication and understanding that helps more than anything in the world... Understanding that I'm not crazy and communicate with me that everything is okay once in awhile. It's not a permanent thing, it's definitely temporary as things progress and we learn your habits.

Spencer does a great job at this... at holding me tight when I'm panicking and just sometimes not saying anything and just being THERE. I appreciate him and his patience more than he knows and I couldn't be more grateful for his understanding attitude. I'm not perfect, but he knows I love the shit out of him and would do anything to keep the anxiety/stress levels down to a minimum. I do my best and I know I will get there, especially at this rate.

Bottom line, know your partner/spouse/friend and know it's not you but we need you. It's not an easy task dealing with us, but I think it's something one can overcome with the right company and with the right mindset. 100%.

I'm no psychiatrist and I'm no expert on anxiety disorders, but this is what I've learned and if you have anything to contribute to this post I urge you to speak up. I'm not the all-knowing great and powerful oz, I will never turn down an opportunity to learn from others. 

Relax. Breathe. Listen to good music. Everything's fine, seriously.